Am I loved? pt. 9

*Fanfare!* Finally! The last of the languages!!!!! I am totally doing a random post after this... The last (but certainly not the least) language: Doer!

Positive Characteristics:
Doers love to do hands -on projects.

Doers are reactors; they see hungry children, they feed them. They hear a cry for help, they rush to answer.

Doers are PRACTICAL people.

Doers desire to be useful.

Doers are good at short range goals. They are good at keeping schedules and meeting imidiate needs.

Doers are great at detail-work. But they are "just do it" people, they don't bother to think about why or if it "feels" right.

Doers hate the spotlight.

Doers hate to say, "no." They long to be able to do it all and in trying, often take on far more projects than they can handle.

Doers "have a place for everything and everything in its place." They are meticulous in the way they like their things to be.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Doers have a very low self-esteem.

Doers tend to see others who are not action oriented as being lazy or having something wrong with them. Doers have a low toleration for emotions and/or talk. They can become critical and, if it is not in check, turn into judgment and bitterness towards others who are not like them.

When a Doers actions are not recognized and praised, they feel martyred. They also have a tendency to keep score of hurts or wrongs done to them. Doers can feel like the only person that does anything -- think of Martha who asked Jesus to convince Mary to help her prepare the meals.

Doers are impatient -- they want to get it done and done NOW!

Doers are extremely sensitive to criticism.

In doing for others Doers often forget to take care of their personal needs and the needs of their family.

Doers usually think of emotions as being "in the way." They do not have great compassion for people who are hurting. Their attitude is, "Hurry up and DO something, then you'll feel better." They loose patients with people who do not heal quickly.

Doers blame others when things go wrong.

How to Show Love to a Doer:
Doers need your approval. It's rather simple to show love to a Doer. Just DO things for them or with them. As long as you're actively DOING something a Doer will feel loved. To them if you didn't love them, you wouldn't do.

Doers need words ALL the time. The more you praise them the more love they feel.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)