Am I loved? pt. 7

Third in the "thinking" languages is Giver.

Positive Characteristics:
Givers truly understand that everything comes from God, be it possessions, talents or wisdom.

Givers are very thoughtful. They find out and remember likes and dislikes and give accordingly.

Givers are generous.

Givers plan for any and every occasion -- expected and unexpected.

Givers are grateful for everything they have and understand that it can be taken away at any given moment.

Givers are very conscious about quality AND price. They want the best for the least.

Givers are excellent at managing money.

Givers love to entertain people and make them feel like royalty when they are at their house. Givers want to make everyone feel at home and comfortable.

Givers do not expect any personal rewards for their giving. They give for the sake of giving.

Givers are well rounded people.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Givers can attach strings to their gifts as a method to control people.

Givers can bribe people.

Givers can be materialistic.

Givers can want to control the use of their gifts.

Givers can have trouble understanding that not everyone is a giver and cannot understand how people can "just buy for themselves."

Givers can give at the wrong time. The Giver might give to someone who really would have been better off if they had not been provided for.

Givers can be spoilers with their gifts.

Givers can be perfectionists when it comes to entertaining.

How to Show Love to a Giver:
Givers want to know that their gifts are apreciated. Givers love to be given to also, but they do not like last-minute-on-the-fly gifts. When giving to a Giver the gifts must be thought through and special. Anything, even if it's something small, when given with this context says, "I was thinking of you and this gift is a way of expressing it to you."

Givers want you to be excited about their gifts. If you are not excited, they feel like a failure.

Givers love to have guests. If you participate in sharing the hospitality, Givers feel like you are sharing in their joy.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)