Am I loved? pt. 2

I love personality quizzes. I mean that is one of my favorite things to do online! So you can probably tell I was really excited to get to write this quiz for everyone. So grab a sheet of paper and a pencil and lets get started...

Here is how this quiz is going to work, there are basically 7 main love languages (I bet you thought there were only 5 ;) Each multiple choice question has its answers in letters (e.g. R, M, C etc.) write down your letter of choice and at the end of the quiz find out your top 3 letters. These will be your 3 main languages.

1. Choose three words that describe you the most:

• compassionate..................................R
• efficient..............................................S
• assertive............................................M
• quiet/reflective.................................C
• generous............................................G
• busy....................................................D
• optimistic...........................................I
• none of these......................................X

2. You enjoy doing the following activities (pick your top 3)

• listening to the concerns of others................................................R
• leading and delegating..................................................................S
• initiating change and starting new activities...............................M
• talking with family of friends........................................................I
• reading and studying.....................................................................C
• entertaining frequently..................................................................G
• working on projects and do-it-yourself activities.........................D
• none of these..................................................................................X

3. When talking face to face with someone, you frequently make physical contact beyond just initially shaking hands (hugging, patting on the back, placing a hand on the shoulder, touching the hand or arm several times, holding hands.)

• yes..................R
• no....................X

4. You enjoy talking and long conversations, even when no action is taken or expected from it.

• yes................I
• no..................X

5. Whether watching TV or talking on the telephone, you usually do things with your hands (rearrange things, continue working on a project or task that was started before the conversation began).

• yes...............D
• no.................X

6. You often enjoy taking risks and doing something new or bold.

• yes............M
• no...............X

7. You are prepared for invited and uninvited guests and make sure both feel welcome.

• yes almost always...............G
• no...........................................X

8. You enjoy researching little known facts, details, and information.

• yes......................C
• no........................X

9. You set and define high goals, expectations, professionalism, and accountability for yourself and others.

• yes.................S
• no...................X

10. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, you would say you're... (choose only one!)

• practical..................................D
• adventuresome......................M
• none of these..........................X

11. You usually... (choose only one!)

• stay on top of details...........................................................................................S
• take action only after much thought and careful consideration....................C
• give much thought to the financial needs of others.........................................G
• none of these.........................................................................................................X

12. Usually you... (choose only one!)

• tend to be emotionally sensitive to others.................................................R
• start and continue conversations with anyone and everyone.................I
• none of these..................................................................................................X

13. At home, work, and socially, you voluntarily do whatever you see that needs to be done.

• yes...............D
• no.................X

14. You are usually surprised when you hear or discover negative things about someone.

• yes.........................R
• no...........................X

15. You may seem rigid and judgmental because you expect high standards and a strict code of conduct of yourself and others.

• yes.............................M
• no...............................X

16. You are usually laid back during problems or arguments.

• yes....................C
• no......................X

17. You tend to make quick decisions.

• yes...........................I
• no.............................X

18. You keep gifts and cards on hand to be prepared for any occasion.

• yes.................G
• no...................X

19. You enjoy planning and organizing both short- and long-term goals for your life and like others to do the same.

• yes.......................S
• no.........................X

20. You are... (choose your top 3)

• warm.................................................R
• focused..............................................S
• responsible........................................G
• conscientious.....................................D
  
• creative..............................................I
• logical..................................................C
• direct...................................................M
• none of these.....................................X

21. You express your ideas and opinions, whether they ask me or not.

• yes......................I
• no........................X

22. You are adventurous and often seek change for the sake of change.

• yes................M
• no..................X

23. It is important and necessary for you to have regular time alone and be apart from others.

• yes...................C
• no.....................X

24. You give gifts and share your hospitality regardless of my means and resources.

• yes................G
• no..................X

25. You often find yourself in key leadership roles and handle responsibility well.

• yes....................S
• no......................X

26. You routinely and regularly complete tasks started by you or asked of you and enjoy it.

• yes............D
• no..............X

27. You are easily moved by the hurts and joys of others.

• yes.................R
• no...................X

Answer Key:

R stands for Responder
I stands for Influencer
S stands for Strategist
C stands for Contemplator
G stands for Giver
D stands for Doer
M stands for Mover

Now count up your letters (e.g. 5 S's, 7 G's) Your top 3 are your main love languages. In my next post I will do into depth on the first couple languages.

I'd really appreciate commenters to say what languages they are so that everyone can see the variety of combinations in the world.

Am I loved? pt. 1

What is love? As humans it is so important to know we are loved. So how does it come about that newly wed couples start out saying and being loved, but later end up getting a divorce because they no longer "feel" loved? How does it come about that children who grow up in a godly home can still walk out feeling "unloved"? The first thing you must remember is that love is a decision. You must decide to love this person whether or not you feel loved or want to love. Love has to be a decision otherwise how can we love our enemies as Jesus Himself commanded? Loving someone and liking someone are two very different aspects. But lets get back to the point...

Say you go to a foreign country and you do not speak the language. No matter how much the people want to help you, you will not be able to receive their aid. It is the same thing with feeling loved. There are many "love languages" that can be spoken and if two people are not speaking the same language, neither is going to feel loved. Knowing your languages and being able to see the languages in other people will make showing and receiving love simple. But you must make the decision to love, even if you don't want to, even if it doesn't make sense, or even if you don't think you have time.


In our families it is our job, as Christians, to be beacons of light, hope and love. Knowing the love languages takes most of the guess work out of giving love -- be it to your parents, siblings, spouse or friends. I am going to do a series of posts so that anyone can come and learn how to really say, "I love you," and have the person receive it.

Universal Healthcare

We are living in a world where government is god. If we just do what our politicians say we will have all of our needs met for us without any real effort on our part. But if we really look at government throughout history, it has always made situations worse. Evil men always seek places of power and will lie, cheat and steal to achieve their goals.

One of our current hubbubs is Nationalized Health care. Government providing all the means for everyone in America to receive health care sounds like a great idea, but what would it really do to the system? Watch this video for a brilliant illustration...

Books for Heart, Books for Soul

Recently I was introduced to the author, Leslie Ludy. I was doing a study that went through her book, "Authentic Beauty." As we went through the book I was exhilarated to find that it was written by a true advocate of purity. She gave true life illustrations (from her own life and the lives of other girls throughout history) and gave practical reasons and steps on how to become a "set apart person." Some of her books are definitely geared more towards girls, but she (and her husband) have also written books specifically for couples, young men and young women as well.

One of my personal favorites is, "His perfect Faithfulness." This book goes through Leslie and Eric Ludy's love story. How they met and how God used them and created the perfect love story for them. I strongly recommend any of their books to anyone who is interested in learning more about purity or feels the need for encouragement on their walk for purity.

Duct Tape

What is the binding, sticky stuff that holds relationships together? I'm talking about lifelong, marriage relationships. An amazing illustration by Pam Stenzel was that intercourse acted like duct tape.

 When you wrap a long piece of duct tape around your arm the tape will hold on tight and not budge; however, if you rip off the duct tape bits of skin and flesh will go with it. When you try to use the duct tape again it will still be sticky, but not nearly as much as before. As you continue to reuse and reuse the tape, eventually, it will loose all stickiness. This illustrates why it is so important and vital to our marriage relationship that we only ever have intimacy with our spouse! Because not only will this relational binding loose all its stickiness, due to frequent reusing, but also the pain involved in tearing yourself away from other partners will be devastating.

On Vampires and Werewolves

What is with our obsession with vampires? Doesn't anyone remember what a vampire is?

According to Dictionary.com --
"Vampire: a preternatural being, commonly believed to be a reanimated corpse, that is said to suck the blood of sleeping persons at night."

Now think about everything ever to be associated with vampires: lust, drinking human blood (an act expressly forbidden in the Bible), pentagrams, giving the soul over to demonic principals. Vampires ARE evil. What could possibly convince us that vampiric ideologies are something to be emulated?

Answer: Romance. What person (especially girls) wouldn't love to read about that forbidden love story? Rat poison is 99.99% good food, only .01% is poison. Whenever someone mixes something evil with something so captivating to read, we instantly become hooked. Anyone who believes vampires are good does not have the facts. Vampires promote that which God despises. How could we wish to support books or movies that go against our Lord?

I don't mean to pick on this series in particular, but take the book/movie rage saga Twilight. What is it really telling us? Evil can be trusted. Evil is misunderstood. Evil isn't really evil. Evil is beautiful. Evil is wiser than good. And Evil should be joined. How will this affect our thinking? Could it ever be positive? Could it ever bring us closer to God? Not in the slightest. In fact, if anything, it would be like eating rat poison, slowly wearing your spirit down.

Drinking Poison

Why is it that we humans so often want what is worst for us? i.e. Eating 10 donuts instead of 1; going shopping and buying more than what we can afford etc. Our sinful souls frequently seem to get the better of us. As Paul said, "For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin. For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I (would) like to (do,) but I am doing the very thing I hate." (Romans 7:14-15)

What can we do to help ourselves from falling into the very thing we know we must avoid?

1. We must totally devote ourselves to our only hope, Jesus Christ. Otherwise everything is in vain.
2. Do NOT put yourself in a situation where you know you will be tempted. Now, that is not to say, turn into a hermit and hide from the world; but if you know that going to Abercrombie and Fitch will cause you to yield to the temptation of spending $500 on clothes that you can't afford -- DON'T GO!
3. It's always a good idea to memorize scripture so that when you confront temptation, and do not have a Bible handy, you can dwell on the verse instead of the object of your temptation.

To kiss or not to kiss

Such a simple thing a kiss, or is it? In today's society a kiss holds almost no value, but why? A kiss used to be something treasured even more than wealth. You may recall that in the old fairy tales a kiss was something so prized that it was fought over in tournaments. So why has our 21st century world placed so little value on something that used to be so precious?

According to the actual definition, a kiss is technically sex -- this is why several STDs can be given orally. But regardless, by the 7th grade nearly everyone has already shared a kiss with someone of the opposite gender. I believe a kiss should be something special, a gift meant to be given to your spouse on your wedding day.

Why is this so often considered an "unrealistic ideal"? Imagine this... say you walk into a room full of people who are already married. Would you ever consider kissing any of them? No, because they all have spouses that they are to remain true and pure for. Then why are we so careless with ourselves around people who are not "married"? In my eyes everyone is already married, they just have yet to meet their spouses.

In a similar way you could relate this situation to our relationship with Jesus Christ. Does He not want all of us? To be unreservedly His? And to never give even the slightest bit of ourselves to other gods? A kiss is a piece of our purity, a piece of our body that ought to remain a special gift to our one and only.