Duct Tape

What is the binding, sticky stuff that holds relationships together? I'm talking about lifelong, marriage relationships. An amazing illustration by Pam Stenzel was that intercourse acted like duct tape.

 When you wrap a long piece of duct tape around your arm the tape will hold on tight and not budge; however, if you rip off the duct tape bits of skin and flesh will go with it. When you try to use the duct tape again it will still be sticky, but not nearly as much as before. As you continue to reuse and reuse the tape, eventually, it will loose all stickiness. This illustrates why it is so important and vital to our marriage relationship that we only ever have intimacy with our spouse! Because not only will this relational binding loose all its stickiness, due to frequent reusing, but also the pain involved in tearing yourself away from other partners will be devastating.