Am I loved? pt. 3

There are three catagories of the love languages: Emotional, Thinking, and Action. I'm going to start with the first of the Emotional languages -- Responder.


Positive Characteristics:
Responders are affectionate people. They like to touch, hug, and have great empathy for others. They are deeply loyal friends, allowing the Responder to rejoice or grieve with their friends.

Responders are creative in the arts and always look for the good in situations.

Responders are often the best at showing the same Christ-like love that Jesus was famous for, the unconditional love of God. Responders SHOW their love the most out of all the other languages.

Responders are always surprised when they find negative characteristics about a person because of this, they are easily hurt, taken advantage of, or misunderstood.

Responders are very sensitive and trusting -- no matter how many times they are let down, they always expect the best.

Responders avoid conflict and confrontation at all costs. When things go wrong they often feel it is all their fault.

Desires:
Responders want to comfort and help people. They want with all their heart to ease the pain of others. They go far out of their way in order to do so, with little concern about themselves. They are very emotional people and care about the emotions of others so strongly that they will do almost anything to make someone feel better.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Responders have the greatest capacity for doing good, but also can have the most destructive affects. Responders can show the most love, but can also end up having eating disorders, using drugs, alcoholism, and suicide.

Responders often deny their emotions. Although the emotions are there Responders do not like to "own up" to them. Instead of dealing with them, Responders will simply hope that they will go away. Stuffed up feelings often lead to to depression and addictions. (Responders often score low or even "0" on the quiz.)

Responders tend to accept sin. They forget to "love the sinner and hate the sin" due to their non-confrontational attitude.

Responders are very "Here and Now" people often forgetting previous commitments for the immediate need. Responders will often stop to rearrange the picture frames on the dresser when they are already late for an important date.
Answer: Responders must learn to look at the big picture, to realize everything in perspective and understand that "Here and Now" can often wait until after the more important.

Responders do not rely on facts. They emphasize their feelings over the information. When the Holy Spirit is not guiding them, Responders can make disastrous decisions. Responders often do it because it "feels" good or right; they will make snap decisions or change plans at the last minute.

Responders are usually indecisive because they do not want to offend anyone at any costs.

How to Show Love to a Responder:
Responders love to be loved. Signs of affection and physical contact, sitting close together, and being listened to. Responders like to be in touch physically and emotionally. They love it when you open up to them and are always willing to open up to you. Male responders often open doors or pull out chairs for ladies and female responders love for them to do it. Responders save notes and letters in order to read them over and over again. Responders only hint at being unhappy about things so you need to be sensitive to their signs. Responders are not "organized" with time so you must learn to work around this.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)