Future Husband - 7

Woo! Okay, last one (for now) is Gentleman. My guy has to be an old fashioned gentleman! This is just one of those things that lets me know that he hasn't been swept up into the culture's brainwashing system.

They guy that opens doors, pulls out chairs, says please, thank-you, and you're welcome... stuff like that. It shows that he is courteous and respectful. I've heard MANY complaints that guys shouldn't have to do these things because girls will get mad. Let me tell you, the girls that get mad at you for opening doors are not the girls you want to hang out with! Since when does the culture dictate what is considered "right"? According to our standards, simple things like pulling out chairs are considered the height of respect and "polite-ness" (any movie will tell you so!)

"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it."

I saw this quote on a t-shirt, and it nearly made me cry. Due to the "feminist" movement, guys have been discouraged and reprimanded for being what? -- gentlemen! I can't stand the "femi-nazis"! Yes, they did SOME good buy giving equal rights for women to work and vote, but it spun out of control! Women that used to be the image of gentleness and beauty have been twisted into warmongers!

Romans 12:2 "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect."

Guys, don't let the culture dictate to you what you should be like. Be chivalrous knights! It's not impossible if you put forward just a little effort. Ask your coworkers if they would like to be walked to their car late at night. If you see someone having trouble in the grocery store, ask if you can help. Wait an extra couple of seconds so that you can open the door for the couple coming in behind you. It's not hard! And I can guarantee you that the amount of rewards you receive in heaven for your work will VASTLY outweigh the criticism you get here on earth.


Philippians 2:15 "so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world"

It is impossible to be justly attacked for doing something good. When you show yourselves to be men of goodness and righteousness, it will be impossible for anyone to be able to find true fault with you.

Well, this topic is definitely NOT closed. Perhaps someday later I will return and come up with more, but I hope everyone enjoyed it!

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Future Husband - 6

Protective. This is really important to girls in general. We know we're smaller and weaker than guys. I don't want to play the damsel in distress, but I do want to know that my husband will protect me.

There is a difference between being protective and being controlling:

When someone is controlling, they want to have supreme authority over every little thing in every situation. I don't mind someone being "in control"; in fact I need it -- I'm terrible at organizing functions and planning. But what I don't want is someone who won't let me talk to "other members of the opposite gender" or demands I do everything HIS way.

When someone is protective, they want to make sure that the people they are "in charge" of are safe. I mean this in a commonsensical way -- going downtown at midnight, no. Going to a person that you KNOW is untrustworthy's house, no. One way that my dad is "protective" over me is he wants to know: when I'm leaving, where I'm going, and approximately when I will be home. This is NOT NOT NOT unreasonable because if something happened -- say I got in a wreck and my phone broke -- Dad would know that I didn't arrive home on time, alerting him to the fact something went wrong, and know where to look for me. Seems kinda a no-brainer to me!

I also like when guys are protective in the manner of: tell me who did it and I'll kill him. Seriously! I think it's the most romantic and wonderful feeling knowing that my husband will knockout anyone who "messes" with me (or our family).

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her" Ephesians 5:25

Husbands had better love a heck of a lot because they have to be willing to DIE -- yep, I said the "d" word -- for their wives. As a someday-wife I need to feel protected with that kind of love. Sounds like a tall order? Apparently not to God because He's the one that said it.

On a much smaller scale, I enjoy little things that make me feel protected too. Walking in front of me makes me feel protected because that tells me if we walk into anything dangerous, he wants to be at the forefront to deal with it, and so that I will be safe in his shadow. His walking on the "street side" makes me feel protected in the same way too.

Well, tomorrow will be the last day! I know just what I want it to be about, so I'm really excited!

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Future Husband - 5

This one is extra important to me! My husband has to take joy in things with me. I love spending time with people and I want to be a million percent positive that my husband will want to spend lots of time with me just doing... things! Whether it be a walk in the park, cooking a meal, or simply looking at a flower. I DON'T want my husband to be the type of person that gets so wrapped up in work, projects, even "the church" that he forgets to spend time with me and our kids.

In our world of Internet, cell phones, TV, jobs, status, and all manner of earthy hassles, it's far, FAR to easy to get so whipped up in a whirl of "duties" that we forget to enjoy the earth that God created for us. A lunch break becomes nothing more than "stopping work so that I can fuel my system". Reading becomes nothing more than "adding necessary knowledge to my brain".

"And God said that it [the world/earth/creation] was good."

I personally, NEED to be able to enjoy life. I NEED to be able to take a walk and enjoy what I see. Admire what I see. Many times I'll leave my house for an hour and the total distance I travel is less than a quarter mile. I like to take my time and enjoy the details that God put in his creation. I want my husband to be a guy that I can do this WITH.

I've traveled a lot, and met a lot of people. Most of the people I've met don't know how to "sit and do nothing". My definition of "do nothing" really isn't "not doing anything" but in reality looking, listening, watching, ENJOYING God's creation. People today don't know how to live without their electronic, entertainment devices. I don't want my husband to go through life and miss everything. Neither do I want him to take away time that he could be spending with PEOPLE by being overly wrapped up in cyberspace.


Nature isn't the only thing I want my husband to be able to enjoy. When I say "take joy in everything" I mean I want my husband to be able to take his time and admire anything that peaks his interest. For example, say my husband and I go shopping. I want my husband to be able to enjoy himself in any of the shops we go into. Or perhaps we go to a museum, I want my husband to be able to ENJOY what he sees. Be it art, nature, music, a book, etc.

Rushing is not allowed!!! I believe that just about any obligation or outing can be enjoyed as long as you don't rush. That means my family won't be overly involved in actives. I don't mind being involved with several groups at once, just as long as you don't overload yourself. I want my husband and I to be able to have time to really "get to know" each other. As humans we're always changing, thus we always need to re-know each other.

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Future Husband - 4

Provider! My husband has to be an amazing provider -- not just because he needs to pay the bills, but so that I can stay home and manage the household.

After WWII when all the American troops came home, women had gotten used to being in the workforce. At first the families loved it, there was more than enough money for everyone, but quickly the law of supply and demand came into effect.

(A short economy lesson) When the supply is high and the demand is low, the price is low. When the supply is low and the demand is high, the price is high. Because everyone had more money (after the war) they began buying more things -- making the supply low. However, even though there were fewer items to be sold the demand was still there; what had to happen to the price? It increased. Now a pair of socks that sold for 50 cents now sells for 2 dollars. Because women stayed in the workforce a domino effect happened that skyrocketed the prices.

So why do I need a husband that is not just a good or great provider, but an AMAZING provider? Because in order for me to be able to stay home he has to make double (yes you heard me -- DOUBLE) the amount the average person does. Since the "average" household usually has two breadwinners, my husband is going to have to make twice as much as what is considered "average". Not a simple nor easy feat.

As lady of the house, I will do whatever I can to be thrifty and budget conscious! Ladies, I encourage you to the highest degree to learn how to do things "home-style" -- you'd be AMAZED how much money you save! I've learned how to take Goodwill clothes and "re-make" them into cute, tailored outfits. To help my family, I make all the bread we need (at less than 25 cents a loaf!) We grow herbs to flavor our food to help save money there. My mother had learned how to repair a house (from caulking to drywall) by herself. My dad's learned how to dye hair -- bunches of things that add up to massive savings!!!

So, to conclude, my poor fellah is going to have to be willing to work hard -- doubly hard! -- to keep food on the table for our family, and have God's fullest blessing.

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Future Husband - 3

Hmm, this is getting tougher as everything narrows down. Next, I suppose would be (I'm not sure what word would describe this) He's not afraid to do what God has called him to do, but yet doesn't get pressured into doing things God has NOT called him to do. Allow me to illustrate:

IF God called you to quit your job, sell your house, and start traveling the country preaching, you should go because God called you to do it.

However...

IF everyone in your Church has decided to go on a 3-week mission trip to New Deli and you know for a fact that this is NOT something God wants you to do, you should not go because God hasn't called you.

Does any of this make scene? I guess a better way to put it would be, don't be superficial and don't be a hypocrite by doing things God has not called you to do. If God has not called you to (lets say...) adopt 12 orphans from Russia, as hard as it would be to believe, it would be a BAD thing. Oh, yes, God will work everything to His greatest good, but you may have taken the job away from the person God REALLY has called to do.

The other half of this is DO go and do what God HAS called you to do. If God has called you to let just 60 minutes of your time to a soup kitchen or to set up chairs before service starts, you sure as heck better do it! Guess why? Because God has called you to do it!

On a much smaller scale in this vein, I know when I get married and have my own home, I want to start a family Bible study. Let us assume that this does happen. If my husband feels burdened to give a message to the 5 (or less?) families -- he should! I have a big problem with this myself -- doing the "little" things I know God asks of me. God was gracious enough to grant me the gift of Prophesy, BUT I get the biggest, hugest case of stage fright whenever I have to say something that most of the time I just don't say anything. I know this is a sin and I'm robbing someone of something they may really need to hear (thus I am doing my BEST to work on it.)

Also I don't want my husband to get caught up in following the "spiritual crowd" when doing things. Just because everyone is raising their hands in worship doesn't mean you HAVE to. At my church group, everyone stands and prays before we have the meal. I can't "bow my head and close my eyes" because I get really dizzy, loose my balance, and fall. Does that mean I'm being any less spiritual than those around me? No! Sometimes the church places standards on people that really aren't standards, but "shows". I don't want my husband to be a "show-er". I want him to be a real-deal, what-you-see-is-what-you-get, say-what-I-mean-and-mean-what-I-say kinda guy.

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