Am I loved? pt. 5

Now that we have gone through the "Feeling" languages, we'll go through the first "Thinking" language: the Strategist.


Positive Characteristics:
Strategists are very organized and extremely efficient planners.

Strategists can visualize the way to accomplish... well, anything.

Strategists know how to use people to their strengths and can place people where they will do their best.

Strategists are great delegators, they have the patience and wisdom to make sure that the people they "watch over" follow through with their tasks.

Strategists know how to develop people well, and are very articulate verbal communicators.

Although Strategists are "thinkers" they are very action oriented. They think about what to do then DO it!

Strategists are very enthusiastic ONLY on what they are interested in. It is very difficult for them to listen to something they are not interested in.

Strategists don't care who gets the credit as long as whatever needs to get done is accomplished.

Strategists like to look good. Everything from their homes to their children to their physical appearance must look the part.


Possible Negative Characteristics:
Strategists don't like "team leadership," to them this is a slow, frustrating waist of time.

Because leaders are so often criticized, Strategists can become hard and sarcastic to protect themselves. Sometimes the Strategist will "build a fortress of silence" when the atmosphere becomes too hurtful.

Strategists can end up using people inappropriately, using them to accomplish their own means.

Strategists can neglect their families because they are so driven to accomplish their goals.

Strategists are unwilling to admit that they have made a wrong or bad decision. It is hard for them because they are right so often that unless presented with irrefutable facts, they will not believe that they are wrong.

Strategists want things done as quickly as possible. Thus they become impatient if there are complications or if the task is not done "as soon as possible."

Strategists tend to think people who are ruled by their emotions (instead of their logic) are weak.

Strategists get so much criticism that they are not willing to trust people with their true feelings.

Strategists have trouble taking council, especially if it does not line up with what they already know, want or think. They often feel that no one else can understand them because their problems are so different, so big or so complicated.

How to Show Love to a Strategist:
Strategists feel loved when you consciously agree with them. Not a drone-like "yes-face" but an understanding agreement. More than anything else, the Strategist want you to agree with him.

Strategist love it when you allow them to organize their life, your life, the kids, home, work and anything else that could possibly need organizing...

Because the Strategist is a natural leader, they get all the criticism and judgment that a leader is given. Making a Strategist feel secure, accepted, significant, included, worthy and validated will build them up after everyone has tried to pull them down.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)