Set me free!

Sigh, sometimes I wish I could write about anything, but since this is a blog with a set topic...

I want to talk about testing. Sort of. I was just thinking how so often the only way to save something is to loose it. Like our redemption in Christ. The only way for us to save our souls is to completely hand it over to Jesus. I once heard from Dr. Dobson, "If you truly love something, let it go (set it free). If it comes back, it's yours; if not, then it was never yours in the first place." This is a fundamental concept for relationships.










If a mother is not allowing her child any room to grow and breath, that child is going to back away (e.g. dislike spending time with the mother, seclude himself etc.) As that child backs away -- trying to give himself some space -- the mother may react by clutching the child even tighter. As you can clearly see, this results in a downward spiral for both parent and child. If the mother truly loved the child, she would give him the space he needs. As a result, the child would feel no bitterness toward his mother and perhaps not mind spending the time his mother needs with him.

The same applies to all relationships: husband/wife, brother/sister, any 2-person relationship. The only way to really keep something is to give it up. As odd as it sounds, it's so true...

Government 101

This is a beautiful lesson on Government... It's a bit long so make sure you have time to watch the whole thing!

Hope

What is it that makes Christianity so different from all the other religions? What is it what makes Christianity a religion that true believers cannot turn away from?

1. Because it's true. I know this seems like a petty argument, but no person in the history of the Earth has ever died for what they knew to be a lie. Plus, if it is true, it is impossible to prove it wrong!
2. Christianity basically tells the human race, "You are evil people, worthy of eternal damnation, without hope of ever being able to save yourselves." No other religion puts an immovable death sentence on humanity; all other religions say that you must earn your way to paradise, your good deeds must "outweigh" your bad deeds.
3. Christianity is the only religion that gives mercy and grace through a perfect sacrifice. This perfect gift through Jesus Christ is the only thing that can save us, for it is surely impossible for us to save ourselves. His unblemished sacrifice gave us mercy from our failures and grace that we may be princes and princesses in His kingdom.
   

Why do so few believe in this miracle? Humans are selfish and proud. To accept this belief would mean they have to relinquish their power over their lives and submit to this awesome God. Humans would have to admit that, "I can't do it. I'm a failure in trying to save myself." What I've always found humerus is even if you don't believe there is a God, that doesn't account for squat! Just because I don't believe in air doesn't mean that I'm going to keel over and die for lack of it. So it is with God. You cannot wish Him away; you cannot prevent His actions; you cannot even stop His involvement in your life.

This God is a God who loves you. This is a God who decided that giving you the opportunity to dwell with Him was worth the price of His live. The gift of Jesus Christ covers all sins and it is for anyone who will accept it. Anyone who knows that striving for perfection will always end in failure, understands that unless we are given mercy, we will perish.

God gave humanity freewill. The choice to do what's right, what wrong, to love God, or reject Him. God will never take away your freewill in the decision to accept His gift of life. The choice is in your hands. What will you choose?

Decyfer Down

I just wanted to do a quick little post for those of you out there who are regulars O.O

I just discovered a band called "Decyfer Down". I was listening to the radio when their new song "Fading" came on. I had never heard them before and found myself loving their music. Decyfer Down is a Christian alternative metal/hard rock band. Musically they are very good, and they incorperate Christian themes into their lyrics. They have two CDs out, End of Grey and Crash.

I really enjoy this band, and for those of you who like this style of music and are looking for a Christian alternative, this is for you!

Strength

What good is strength?
It fades with age.
Strength of mind or of body.
When we are young all that matters is what we can do.
When we are old, we deem ourselves nothing
For nothing is all we can do.
What is the purpose of this thing called "strength"?
It cannot be eaten,
It cannot always save us.
It brings no joy,
It gives no hope.
Strength of mind does little good,
Unless we have the means to make our thoughts real.
For those who do not, it means nothing.
For those who do, they will pass away with nothing.
This thing called strength can do us no permanent good,
So then, why do we seek to be stronger? be greater?
Why do we seek strength?
For those who find it to push themselves up
They will leave as the weakest of all.
But...
But for those who understand,
For those who know what the true purpose of strength is,
They will know that strength is not so that we could save ourselves.
Nor even to save those around us.
The true purpose of strength...
Is so that we might cling to God all the tighter.
So that we may know him all the better.
Strength is so that we will not let go,
Not let go of Jesus the Christ.

What you see mayn't be what you get...

Girls like to know they are beautiful, but when the world declares something 100% fake, something impossible for a human girl to attain as "beautiful" girls will go to the extreme to be thought of as "beautiful."

When all the magazines staring young girls in the face show images of "what they should look like" is devastating. Young women must have a firm foundation in God, as not to be sucked into the lies.

Here is what truly goes on in a photo-shoot...

Dragons!

So I didn't get all of my fantasy bug out (I never will :) on that first fantasy post so I thought I'd do another of my favorites: Dragons!

Dragons come in many forms, even more than fairies! The main catagories would be:

• Eastern Dragon
• Western (or Heraldic) Dragon
• Metallic Dragon
• Coloric Dragon
• Habitatual Dragon

Once again there are far too many to put in just one post, and the variations within the categories are astounding!








Western Dragons are by far the most famous and popular. They are the bat-winged, fire breathing menaces that eat beautiful damsels and hoard mountains of treasure. Never keep dragon treasure in your possession for extended periods of time, so much of the dragon's personality has been pored into his valuble that (if kept too long) will rub off you -- sometimes to the point where you become a dragon yourself. Western Dragons are vain and proud, but they cannot resist a good riddle. Their pride will not allow them to leave a question unanswered. Here are some of my favorite riddles:










(1)
Only one color but not one size,
Stuck at the bottom, yet easily flies.
Present in sun, but not in rain,
Doing no harm and feeling no pain.


(2)
What force and strength cannot get through
I with a gentle touch can do.
And many in the street would stand
Were I not a friend at hand.











(3)
In marble walls as white as milk,
Lined with skin as soft as silk,
Within a fountain crystal clear,
A golden apple does appear.
No doors are there to this stronghold-
Yet thieves break in and steel the gold.












(4)
You throw away the outside and cook the inside;
Then you eat the outside and throw away the inside.
What am I?


(5)
It occurs once in every minute
Twice in every moment
And yet never in one hundred thousand years.










(6)
What walks on 4 legs in the morning
2 legs in the afternoon
3 legs at night?


(7)
What has roots that nobody sees,
Is taller than trees.
Up, up is goes
And yet never grows?

(The answers will be posted in the comments below!)








Asian Dragons are not as "evil" as Western Dragons, but they are certainly wily! They will do nearly anything to accomplish their means. They are snobbish and think of us humans as being savage animals not worthy of their time.


Metalic Dragons are by far the most noble of the dragons. They are the secret preservers of peace and secret do-gooders. Both Metallic and Coloric dragons have the ability to change into a human form. This is how Metallic dragons can mingle with humans un-noticed.
















Coloric Dragons are, without a doubt, the most evil, selfish, vile and devious of the dragons. They vary from cowardly evil to the devil's son. These dragons are born with one thought planted in their head, "How do I get what I want with out loosing my power?" All dragons have a thirst for freedom. The freedom of not having alliances, the freedom to go wherever they want, whenever they want without having to worry about anything. Coloric dragons want this freedom in a very self-serving way. They will promise their allegiance to your face to get ahead, then when you call upon them, they will desert!

Habitatual Dragons are great animals. Most cannot speak and are merely eating machines with a touch of the "magpie flu". They pillage and plunder to get to the fattest cows or tastiest children. If they get into a water system they water will gain a burning acidic taste. Some can breath fire, some can fly, some can do neither. These are the easiest dragons to deal with for although they can be tricky and sly, they do not have the same intelect as the other, "higher" species of dragon.

Dear Diary...

Journaling or keeping a prayer diary is an interesting way for a Christan to keep track of what the Lord is doing in his life. As humans we are very forgetful. By keeping a journal we can have a tangible record of our prayers. So often I've gone over my old written prayers and have found that a certain prayer had been answered very specifically or if I hadn't been praying for a certain person they might not be where they are. Biblically we can look at, personally my favorite prophet, Daniel. He was fasting and praying for his people for 3 weeks when The Angel of the Lord cam to him. The Angel said that He had been fighting the Prince of Persia for 3 weeks. One must wonder what would have happened if Daniel had stopped on day 20 or 19. Would the angel have gotten through? (Daniel 10)

It's really simple to keep a prayer journal. All you have to do is get a cheap notebook from the dollar store and a pen. For those who are writers (like me) perhaps you'd like to go "high end" and get a leather backed journal and a vintage quill to have all the fun you can while writing... Whenever you pray, grab your journal and write it down with the date. Later you can look back and see how the Lord used you or provided for you. It truly is amazing to see how the Lord works.




Write down your friends' or family's prayer requests, write down things you're thankful for, or write about what happened in your day. Save your journal so that one day you can give it your children. They will most certainly enjoy reading about what you went through when you were their age...

Thus, I encourage everyone, record your life. Record your prayers because it is truly beyond amazing to watch God work. It doesn't have to be regular or consistent. Just whenever you think of it, write down your prayers. Make lists of your dreams and goals, and watch them change and be fulfilled over the years...

Fairy!

Okay! Since I finished that FOREVER long post on Love Languages, I decided to celebrate by doing a completely random post on my favorite topic: FAIRIES!





There are so many kinds of "Fairies" I could devote an entire blog to just describing them... The basic categories are:

• Fairies
• Sprites
• Pixies

I could go crazy with how many other fairies there are that are a category all by themselves: undines, sylphs, and the Selie Court to name a few.









My personal favorites of the fairies are forest fairies. They are wise and mysterious, and they live in my favorite place... the forest. These forest fairies are the makers of fairy rings. They have a great feast at the threshold of each season and never forget a kindness done to them...









Water fairies are just behind forest fairies. They are very fast and are often mistaken for dragonflies. Water fairies aren't as mischievous as pixies, but do tend to prank passers by. They are, after all, fairies.




















So those are my top for normal (if anything faerie is "normal) fairies. Of coarse there are warriors in faerie land. As odd as it sounds, they do ride horses into battle, but fairies NEVER carry iron or steel (this includes swords.) Fairy weaponry is very unique. The "swords" are made of some special alloy unknown to humans and are thoroughly encrusted with magic. A test to weather or not the "fairy" you are up against is a fairy or an elf is to find their reaction to iron. Elves are one of the few faeries that iron does not affect.








As I think of more things I'll probably update this post, but the easiest thing to remember when determining the strength of a fairy is

1. Likeness to an insect: the more "human-ish" the more powerful.
   
2. Size: the larger the fairy the more powerful.
3. Wings: if the fairy does NOT have wings, odds are it is part of the Selie Court. These fairies are THE MOST POWERFUL fairies. Do not even think of trying to trick them -- It will most certainly mean your doom.

I know this is supposed to be about fairies, but I just have to throw in... I'm an elf. You heard me right, Christine Ericson is an Elf. Want to see my picture? I am currently under apprenticeship to be a healer and am the Lady of Hanalith.

Am I loved? pt. 9

*Fanfare!* Finally! The last of the languages!!!!! I am totally doing a random post after this... The last (but certainly not the least) language: Doer!

Positive Characteristics:
Doers love to do hands -on projects.

Doers are reactors; they see hungry children, they feed them. They hear a cry for help, they rush to answer.

Doers are PRACTICAL people.

Doers desire to be useful.

Doers are good at short range goals. They are good at keeping schedules and meeting imidiate needs.

Doers are great at detail-work. But they are "just do it" people, they don't bother to think about why or if it "feels" right.

Doers hate the spotlight.

Doers hate to say, "no." They long to be able to do it all and in trying, often take on far more projects than they can handle.

Doers "have a place for everything and everything in its place." They are meticulous in the way they like their things to be.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Doers have a very low self-esteem.

Doers tend to see others who are not action oriented as being lazy or having something wrong with them. Doers have a low toleration for emotions and/or talk. They can become critical and, if it is not in check, turn into judgment and bitterness towards others who are not like them.

When a Doers actions are not recognized and praised, they feel martyred. They also have a tendency to keep score of hurts or wrongs done to them. Doers can feel like the only person that does anything -- think of Martha who asked Jesus to convince Mary to help her prepare the meals.

Doers are impatient -- they want to get it done and done NOW!

Doers are extremely sensitive to criticism.

In doing for others Doers often forget to take care of their personal needs and the needs of their family.

Doers usually think of emotions as being "in the way." They do not have great compassion for people who are hurting. Their attitude is, "Hurry up and DO something, then you'll feel better." They loose patients with people who do not heal quickly.

Doers blame others when things go wrong.

How to Show Love to a Doer:
Doers need your approval. It's rather simple to show love to a Doer. Just DO things for them or with them. As long as you're actively DOING something a Doer will feel loved. To them if you didn't love them, you wouldn't do.

Doers need words ALL the time. The more you praise them the more love they feel.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 8

Okay, we've done the "Emotional" and "Thinking" languages now we'll start the "Action" languages. First up is the Mover!

Positive Characteristics:
Movers have a strong personality whatever they do they do with gusto and strength!

Movers make things happen. They are in constant motion and don't stop! If they feel something is taking too long they will move on to another project.

Movers have a lot of energy. They need to because they are always doing something.

Movers are honest. They tell it like it is and like others to be upfront with them also.

Movers have the ability to discern right from wrong. They can accurately discern the motives of others.

Movers truly want to live righteously. They constantly examine their motives to be sure they are not just doing what is right, but because they know it is right.

Movers love adventure and are risk takers and usually the first to try something new.

Movers stand up for what they believe; they are more than willing to fight for their convictions.

Movers can be dramatic as in they can do bizarre and even dangerous things to make a point or to get your attention.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Movers have a low self-esteem. They are hardest on themselves because of their high standards.

Movers tend to be harsh and too direct and abrupt. They often think that because their motives are pure their methods are great too. But this is all too often NOT the case.

Movers place high standards on others, causing the Mover to be unforgiving of flaws in family or friends. They do not realize that this way of thinking can be devastating to those around them.

Movers can be judgmental and critical. They can try to force people to change their motives without the help of God.

Movers are always moving on to do something new. This often lead them into having a million things only half done.

Movers can plow through people in an effort to accomplish their goals.

Movers have a tendancy to blame others when things go wrong. In their desire to correct others they often say the message, "You made a mistake," but it is usually recieved, "You are a mistake."

Movers usually jump to conclutions.

Movers are physical, active people. Since they act first, think second, they can be impulsive. On impulse, Movers can be physically abusive.

How to Show Love to a Mover:
Movers feel loved when you do activities with them. In order for them to recieve love, your motives must line up with your actions. Mean what you say and say what you mean and more importantly, follow through in your actions. It is most importan that your true motive is pure. Do things for a Mover soley as an expression of love.

Movers are "to the point" people. They do not like builing tension in a story; Movers want to hurry up and know the answer. When speaking with a Mover, start with the result and then explain why.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 7

Third in the "thinking" languages is Giver.

Positive Characteristics:
Givers truly understand that everything comes from God, be it possessions, talents or wisdom.

Givers are very thoughtful. They find out and remember likes and dislikes and give accordingly.

Givers are generous.

Givers plan for any and every occasion -- expected and unexpected.

Givers are grateful for everything they have and understand that it can be taken away at any given moment.

Givers are very conscious about quality AND price. They want the best for the least.

Givers are excellent at managing money.

Givers love to entertain people and make them feel like royalty when they are at their house. Givers want to make everyone feel at home and comfortable.

Givers do not expect any personal rewards for their giving. They give for the sake of giving.

Givers are well rounded people.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Givers can attach strings to their gifts as a method to control people.

Givers can bribe people.

Givers can be materialistic.

Givers can want to control the use of their gifts.

Givers can have trouble understanding that not everyone is a giver and cannot understand how people can "just buy for themselves."

Givers can give at the wrong time. The Giver might give to someone who really would have been better off if they had not been provided for.

Givers can be spoilers with their gifts.

Givers can be perfectionists when it comes to entertaining.

How to Show Love to a Giver:
Givers want to know that their gifts are apreciated. Givers love to be given to also, but they do not like last-minute-on-the-fly gifts. When giving to a Giver the gifts must be thought through and special. Anything, even if it's something small, when given with this context says, "I was thinking of you and this gift is a way of expressing it to you."

Givers want you to be excited about their gifts. If you are not excited, they feel like a failure.

Givers love to have guests. If you participate in sharing the hospitality, Givers feel like you are sharing in their joy.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 6

Next in the "thinking" languages is the Contemplator.

Positive Characteristics:
Contemplators are one-on-one people. They do not like noise or huge groups of people, they prefer peace and quiet.

Contemplators think before they speak. They are not quick to respond and if they do not feel called to speak they won't.

Contemplators like teaching or presenting information. They like to have the spotlight when they are speaking and to have people really listen.

Contemplators have flexible boundaries, allowing them to absorb the best in a situation while also keeping out the bad.

Contemplators like to have a schedule -- not a rigid, strict rule book, but a regular schedule allows for the peace and quiet that a Contemplator needs. Contemplators can, however, sometimes choose to do something spontaneous.

Contemplators NEED quality time with people. They do not like quick "hello"s or "how do you do"s. They need real time with people without noise or hectic activities.

Contemplators also need time alone. They need to withdraw and be by themselves. Others should not take this need personally.

Contemplators don't like to be involved with multiple projects. They like to finish one before they start another.

Contemplators are deep and logical thinkers. They like to reason things through and know things in depth. They are great validators of facts and truth. Contemplators are rather slow to accept the viewpoints of others until they have thoroughly researched everything out. Contemplators have "the Berean" attitude of Acts 17:11.

Contemplators are good at resiting negative comments or pressure.

Contemplators are loyal. They usually hang on to mementos, and remember old friends. They are not "out with the old on with the new" people.

Contemplators are good listeners. They know that they can learn a lot more by listening rather than talking.

Contemplators have the ability to see through all the events and oddities of life and see things as they really are. They have great spiritual insight for themselves and others.

Contemplaors are want to present people with the truth in a logical, rational way so that anyone can understand it.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Contemplators tend to have too many interests in too many things.

Contemplators do not like to show or share their feelings with others.

Although Contemplators always seem calm, cool and colected they are usually sensitive and experience hurt and rejection easily. They just refuse to show it. Because of this most people don't think that things hurt Contemplators emotionally. They do!

Contemplators tend to think that their interpretation of truth is the only interpretation because they feel the have thoroughly researched everything.

Contemplators can be insecure in relations ships because they: fear rejection or fear being smothered. Although this seems contradictory, they can both be present in the same person.

Contemplators will withdraw into isolation if they feel in danger emotionally or if they are too selfish with their "personal space."

Contemplators can have an... unusual sense of humor.

How to Show Love to a Contemplator:
Spending special, set aside time with a Contemplator, focusing all your attention on them will show them that you love them. Taking long walks, quiet dinners, sharing projects, playing games, and doing activities TOGETHER will communicate love to a Contemplator.

Contemplators feel loved when you allow them time alone.

Contemplators need reassurance that their fears of rejection are unfounded. They also need reassurance that they will not be smothered or absorbed.

Contemplators are sensitive, but do not communicate it well. For them to feel loved this sensitivity must be handled gently.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 5

Now that we have gone through the "Feeling" languages, we'll go through the first "Thinking" language: the Strategist.


Positive Characteristics:
Strategists are very organized and extremely efficient planners.

Strategists can visualize the way to accomplish... well, anything.

Strategists know how to use people to their strengths and can place people where they will do their best.

Strategists are great delegators, they have the patience and wisdom to make sure that the people they "watch over" follow through with their tasks.

Strategists know how to develop people well, and are very articulate verbal communicators.

Although Strategists are "thinkers" they are very action oriented. They think about what to do then DO it!

Strategists are very enthusiastic ONLY on what they are interested in. It is very difficult for them to listen to something they are not interested in.

Strategists don't care who gets the credit as long as whatever needs to get done is accomplished.

Strategists like to look good. Everything from their homes to their children to their physical appearance must look the part.


Possible Negative Characteristics:
Strategists don't like "team leadership," to them this is a slow, frustrating waist of time.

Because leaders are so often criticized, Strategists can become hard and sarcastic to protect themselves. Sometimes the Strategist will "build a fortress of silence" when the atmosphere becomes too hurtful.

Strategists can end up using people inappropriately, using them to accomplish their own means.

Strategists can neglect their families because they are so driven to accomplish their goals.

Strategists are unwilling to admit that they have made a wrong or bad decision. It is hard for them because they are right so often that unless presented with irrefutable facts, they will not believe that they are wrong.

Strategists want things done as quickly as possible. Thus they become impatient if there are complications or if the task is not done "as soon as possible."

Strategists tend to think people who are ruled by their emotions (instead of their logic) are weak.

Strategists get so much criticism that they are not willing to trust people with their true feelings.

Strategists have trouble taking council, especially if it does not line up with what they already know, want or think. They often feel that no one else can understand them because their problems are so different, so big or so complicated.

How to Show Love to a Strategist:
Strategists feel loved when you consciously agree with them. Not a drone-like "yes-face" but an understanding agreement. More than anything else, the Strategist want you to agree with him.

Strategist love it when you allow them to organize their life, your life, the kids, home, work and anything else that could possibly need organizing...

Because the Strategist is a natural leader, they get all the criticism and judgment that a leader is given. Making a Strategist feel secure, accepted, significant, included, worthy and validated will build them up after everyone has tried to pull them down.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 4

The other "Emotional language" is the Influencer.
Influencers are cheerleaders. They are the people that push you to do your best and always encourage you in you endeavors.
Positive Characteristics:
Influencers speak their thoughts through. You can always hear when an Influencer is thinking. They often talk to themselves, but it's just their way of organizing their thoughts and thinking things through.
Influencers are very optimistic, although they do see the bad things in life, they can see past them. They truly believe that "it came to pass."
Influencers are PEOPLE PEOPLE. They love just being with people, spending time with people, and talking with people.
Influencers long to see people get better. They never see anyone as perfect or a failure (especially themselves); Influencers see people as always getting better.
Influencers have a driving need to communicate and be heard. They love to learn new and better ways of expressing their thoughts and feelings. Thus they need confirmation that they are being heard.
Influencers accept people where they are. Not that they approve of sin -- in fact -- Influencers will grow exasperated if someone does not express the same enthusiasm that they do in wanting to change.
Influencers do not like to waist time, thus they are quick decision makers.
Influencers know everybody, they like getting to know people and are people pleasers.
Influencers learn best by doing and experiencing. They often jump head long into a project or task without finding out if they can handle it.
Influencers are meticulous in wanting to look good, both physically and in maintaining a good looking home, and are very creative in doing so.
Desires:
Influencers desire to see everyone happy and healthy emotionally. They want to see people improve and love helping along the way. They love relationships.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Influencers often talk too much. They are uncomfortable with silence and fill the need to fill it -- even when silence is appropriate. Influencers tend to finish people's sentences (sometimes robbing the speaker of the moment) and often interrupt people.
Influencers often seem critical of others because they always see the potential to get better; they usually forget to recognize that what they have may be good enough.
Influencers are impatient with people who do not have a "get up and go" attitude to improve themselves.
Influencers must be careful because they are natural manipulators. They must recognize and control this destructive habit.
Influencers tend to talk about everything, but do nothing.
How to Show Love to an Influencer:
Influencers need verbal approval. Phrases like, "I love you," "Great job," "I'm so thankful for you," "You're so special to me," mean more than all the actions and gifts in the world. Compliments on their appearance and handiwork are greatly appreciated also.
Influencers NEED to express themselves and know they are being hears. Simple things like head nodding and conformational yes's and no's tell the Influencer that they are being heard.
(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)

Am I loved? pt. 3

There are three catagories of the love languages: Emotional, Thinking, and Action. I'm going to start with the first of the Emotional languages -- Responder.


Positive Characteristics:
Responders are affectionate people. They like to touch, hug, and have great empathy for others. They are deeply loyal friends, allowing the Responder to rejoice or grieve with their friends.

Responders are creative in the arts and always look for the good in situations.

Responders are often the best at showing the same Christ-like love that Jesus was famous for, the unconditional love of God. Responders SHOW their love the most out of all the other languages.

Responders are always surprised when they find negative characteristics about a person because of this, they are easily hurt, taken advantage of, or misunderstood.

Responders are very sensitive and trusting -- no matter how many times they are let down, they always expect the best.

Responders avoid conflict and confrontation at all costs. When things go wrong they often feel it is all their fault.

Desires:
Responders want to comfort and help people. They want with all their heart to ease the pain of others. They go far out of their way in order to do so, with little concern about themselves. They are very emotional people and care about the emotions of others so strongly that they will do almost anything to make someone feel better.

Possible Negative Characteristics:
Responders have the greatest capacity for doing good, but also can have the most destructive affects. Responders can show the most love, but can also end up having eating disorders, using drugs, alcoholism, and suicide.

Responders often deny their emotions. Although the emotions are there Responders do not like to "own up" to them. Instead of dealing with them, Responders will simply hope that they will go away. Stuffed up feelings often lead to to depression and addictions. (Responders often score low or even "0" on the quiz.)

Responders tend to accept sin. They forget to "love the sinner and hate the sin" due to their non-confrontational attitude.

Responders are very "Here and Now" people often forgetting previous commitments for the immediate need. Responders will often stop to rearrange the picture frames on the dresser when they are already late for an important date.
Answer: Responders must learn to look at the big picture, to realize everything in perspective and understand that "Here and Now" can often wait until after the more important.

Responders do not rely on facts. They emphasize their feelings over the information. When the Holy Spirit is not guiding them, Responders can make disastrous decisions. Responders often do it because it "feels" good or right; they will make snap decisions or change plans at the last minute.

Responders are usually indecisive because they do not want to offend anyone at any costs.

How to Show Love to a Responder:
Responders love to be loved. Signs of affection and physical contact, sitting close together, and being listened to. Responders like to be in touch physically and emotionally. They love it when you open up to them and are always willing to open up to you. Male responders often open doors or pull out chairs for ladies and female responders love for them to do it. Responders save notes and letters in order to read them over and over again. Responders only hint at being unhappy about things so you need to be sensitive to their signs. Responders are not "organized" with time so you must learn to work around this.

(This is an abbreviated answer. To Learn more, check out "Speaking of Love" by Fred and Anna Kendall.)